The Art of Self-Promotion, Balancing Humility, Visibility

Feb 9 , 2025
By Kidist Yidnekachew

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I will be honest; self-promotion is not my strong suit. A complex mix of self-doubt, perfectionism, and perhaps even self-sabotage often holds me back. It is a strange paradox.

If everything were easy and effortless, what would I have to strive for?

But I have watched others, people who seize opportunities with hunger and confidence, climbing the ladder of success. They do not necessarily work harder; they work smarter. They understand visibility. They know the importance of being seen and heard.

I often wonder if I have that same drive or if my discomfort with self-promotion will always be a barrier. My instinct is to believe my work should speak for itself, that recognition should come naturally, rather than being something I actively seek. But experience has taught me otherwise. Sometimes, a well-placed nudge is necessary, especially when dealing with the ungrateful, the oblivious, or the overwhelmed.

Lately, I have noticed a pattern in myself, a passive approach that, in retrospect, is not helping my career. Take project proposals, for example. Once I send one off, I retreat, waiting for a response. I tell myself that following up might seem pushy, desperate, or annoying. Meanwhile, I watch others, those who are proactive and assertive, checking in frequently, ensuring they stay top-of-mind with decision-makers.

And more often than not, their persistence pays off. They land the project. And I am left wondering what could have been.

I have also encountered individuals who have mastered the art of self-promotion, selling their image with unwavering confidence, even when their skills or experience do not entirely match the hype. And yet, they achieve exactly what they set out to do. It is frustrating, yes, but it tells a crucial truth: self-promotion matters. It can be the deciding factor between success and stagnation.

If I do not advocate for myself, if I stay silent about my accomplishments and capabilities, who will?

Self-doubt buries potential, leaving it untapped, like a gem hidden beneath layers of earth.

This realisation hit me recently at an event I attended with a friend. There, I ran into a woman I had not seen in years. From the moment she arrived, she was a force of nature, engaging effortlessly, sharing her accomplishments and current projects, even when no one explicitly asked. She exchanged contacts with ease and, by the end of the evening, had likely secured a promising new business opportunity.

I was struck by her effortless confidence, a quality I often find myself lacking. Unlike some who are all talk and no substance, she had real skills and experience to back up her claims. Her self-promotion felt natural, not boastful.

Maybe it is cultural. Perhaps I was raised to prioritise humility, to avoid speaking too openly about my achievements. Talking about myself, my skills, and my work feels like bragging, something I instinctively shy away from. But watching this woman, I realised there is an art to self-promotion, a way to showcase one’s abilities without arrogance. It is a skill I need to master if I want to move forward.

This event was a wake-up call. It made me realise that where people are in life is not always a reflection of their potential, education, or talent. Sometimes, it is simply because they have not learned how to advocate for themselves. They stay invisible, confined to their comfort zones, while others, perhaps less qualified but better at self-promotion, seize the opportunities they let slip away.

I have much to learn from this woman, and I intend to do just that. It is time to step out of my comfort zone and embrace self-promotion, not as bragging, but as a necessary skill for achieving my goals. It is about making my value known, not just hoping it will be recognised. It is about ensuring my voice is heard, not just assuming it will be. It is about taking control of my own narrative, instead of letting others write it, or worse, letting it go unwritten. It is about owning my accomplishments and sharing them with confidence.

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PUBLISHED ON Feb 09, 2025 [ VOL 25 , NO 1293]

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