I once had to go to a skin care product and treatment centre to look for a specific product for a friend. A simple quest for sunscreen led to unsolicited offers for skincare and laser treatments for the mole I never considered as an anomaly. I believe the incessant persuasion was unnecessary and irrelevant. But judging from the persuasive power and allegedly purported mastery of subject matter knowledge by the skin care professionals, I would not be surprised if people succumbed to the request.

The relentless pressure to conform to an externally imposed standard overshadows our appreciation for uniqueness. This is why an 85-year-old Harvard University Medical School study that has recently resurfaced through CNBC stands out for its enduring relevance. Conducted in 1938, the research set out on a decade-long quest to unravel the mysteries of human happiness and longevity.

The researchers collected health records from over 700 subjects worldwide, embarking on an unprecedented journey to decode the essence of a fulfilling life. The revelations are striking and challenge the very fabric of modern beliefs. It depicts that the core of our existence lies in positive relationships. Our connections with others truly matter; contrary to the prevailing zeitgeist that usually dictates career achievements, financial success, exercise regimens and dietary plans as the gateways to a long and happy life.

As various industries push the self-care agenda, an overwhelming flood of information leaves us with a pervasive sense of inadequacy, the study prompts us to reconsider our priorities. The emphasis on physical fitness, career development, life coaching, and motivational speaking has created a cacophony of messages, making us vulnerable targets in the information war waged by those with a vested interest.

Fitness enthusiasts meticulously monitor their body measurements, while those dedicated to physical appearance agonise over meal choices and diet plans, sometimes depriving themselves of essential nutrients. Individuals immersed in the pursuit of longevity monitor blood pressure, and sugar levels, and adhere to stringent lifestyles. Teenagers find themselves consumed by concerns about their looks, succumbing to societal pressures to conform to an unrealistic standard of beauty.

Despite the extraordinary lengths people go to better facets of their lives, the genuine pursuit of happiness remains elusive. The study directs our attention to a concept it terms "Social Fitness" — an aspect of our lives that seems to resonate universally. It delves into seven fundamental attributes that form the pillars: Safety and Security, Learning and Growth, Emotional Closeness and Confiding, Identity Affirmation and Shared Experience, Romantic Intimacy, Informational and Practical Help, and Fun and Relaxation. By plotting these attributes against the important people in our lives, the study encourages us to take stock of our relationships and acknowledge those who contribute to them.

The seven attributes serve as a roadmap for navigating our relational lives, guiding us towards building connections that encompass safety, growth, emotional closeness and enjoyment, in a world bombarded with self-help and seemingly foolproof prescriptions for success.

Inspired by this approach, I conducted a personal inventory, listing close family members, colleagues, friends and non-human elements like hobbies and activities. The results revealed the extent to which certain individuals and activities fulfilled my social needs. This simple yet profound act of introspection underscored the importance of positive relationships in shaping lives.