
Radar | Jul 06,2019
Aug 9 , 2025
By Eden Sahle
Every morning, my husband Mike gently wakes me for prayer. After we share that quiet moment, he says, "You should rest more before our daughter wakes up." I sink back into sleep, even as the world beyond our walls buzzes with judgment. That contrast, between the sanctuary we have built and the expectations of others, is my daily reality.
Before our daughter was born, we spoke about the sacrifices we were willing to make. We agreed: we wanted to raise her ourselves, rooted in our values, discipline, and love—not leave her with strangers while we chased careers.
I once held a high-paying job that took me around the world and introduced me to influential people. The work fulfilled me, challenged me, and helped me grow. Walking away from that to raise my daughter was not easy.
Even those closest to us sometimes question our choice. Women ask Mike, "What does your wife do all day? Isn't she bored at home with just a baby?" Some say, "Your husband is building a career while you do nothing. After all that education, shouldn't you be more ambitious?" These comments often come from other women, many of them mothers. Strangely, men tend to say the opposite: they compliment our decision and say our daughter is fortunate.
Yet the core of the matter is simple: we made the decision together. I did not step back from work reluctantly or under pressure; I did it lovingly and intentionally. Society rarely sees it that way. Stay-at-home parenting is often viewed as wasted potential.
This reveals a deeper divide: a narrow definition of womanhood, where achievement only counts if it is visible and marketable. In that view, motherhood alone is not enough; it must be stacked atop a high-powered career to matter.
However, motherhood requires all the qualities people admire in the workplace: patience, multitasking, leadership, emotional intelligence, and crisis management. The only difference is that there's no promotion or end-of-year bonus—just the quiet labour of shaping a human being.
Using your education to raise a thoughtful, emotionally grounded child is not a downgrade. It's an opportunity. There is more power in shaping a life than in chasing status.
If you hold degrees, people assume you are wasting them by choosing full-time caregiving, as though ambition only counts when it is directed outward. But stay-at-home parenting is full-time, unpaid, emotionally taxing work. It can be repetitive, draining, and even isolating. Sometimes, your identity feels unclear. But the difficulty is not a flaw; it is the cost of something profoundly human and meaningful.
Despite what people say, I will never regret this time. I won't wish I had spent less time with my daughter to be more "productive" outside. I won't trade bedtime rituals or small, unnoticed moments. That is not wasted time. It is the most important work I will ever do.
Motherhood is not a fallback; it can be a calling.
This does not mean working parents harm their children. But choosing to be fully present at home has real, measurable value. It is not idleness. It is an investment.
Multiple studies have shown that children benefit when parents are consistently present during the early years. A national survey in Norway found that children whose parents stayed home early on performed better even into adolescence. Norway's "Cash for Care" policy, which financially supported parents to stay home, tracked over 68,000 children and found positive academic and emotional outcomes.
Medical professionals echo this. Many paediatricians and child psychologists advise parents to stay home until at least age two. Early presence helps prevent separation anxiety, which is linked to behavioural issues, sleep problems, and difficulty regulating emotions.
But presence alone is not enough. Experts emphasise the importance of quality caregiving, consistent routines, and responsive parenting. Children thrive when their needs are recognised and met in real-time.
Quality daycare can support socialisation and cognitive skills. But studies often conclude that parental presence has a more substantial long-term influence. Stay-at-home parenting allows for consistent bonding, moral grounding, and uninterrupted guidance.
These early years lay the foundation for emotional and cognitive life. Intentional caregiving is not just nurturing; it is nation-building at the soul level.
Every parenting path includes trade-offs. Working mothers model ambition and independence. Stay-at-home parents offer rhythm, attunement, and emotional scaffolding. Both paths matter. What counts is choosing with intention.
Yes, I dreamed beyond motherhood. But I also dream within it: raising a daughter who knows our values because she lived them. Morning prayers, shared stories, and chores with meaning - these are acts of love, not duty.
If that unsettles others, it's because it reminds them that women still have agency. We can choose presence over prestige, depth over validation. Motherhood is not a fallback; it can be a calling.
I hope we learn to support each other, regardless of whether someone chooses a career, caregiving, or both. Each path has a weight. Each deserves respect.
In the quiet of our home each morning, I rest as Mike leaves for work. That rest has purpose. It prepares me to be fully present when our daughter calls out, "Mama." One day, I hope that presence echoes in the woman she becomes.
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